Who we are.

History of Kent Sands

In September 2002 the doors to Kent Sands were opened.  The group was set up by two bereaved mums, who had lost children through miscarriage and stillbirth and had found there to be very little support in their communities.  Originally the group covered the majority of Kent and involved the running of 5 groups. Regular contact was made with the 8 hospitals in their catchment area, including training days with professionals. The two mums were heavily involved in fundraising to support the groups and raise awareness. Part of their commitment was to do home visits, as well as telephone support and the running of the various meetings.  In 2008 some of the parents that had been supported by the group took over the running of the meetings, which has enabled Kent Sands to continue supporting bereaved parents today.

 

West Kent and Medway Sands Committee

Louise Pettis, Chairperson

Our second daughter Sofia was stillborn on New Year's Eve 2006. I had heard her heatbeat at the midwives on the 27th December, but on the 28th she stopped moving. I went to the hospital to be checked, and discovered that she had died. Labour was induced the following day and our gorgeous girl was born 2 days later, at 37+1 weeks. We were able to take Sofia to Demelza house children's hospice and spent a week with her there, before her funeral. We chose not to have a post mortem. Our son was born just over a year after losing Sofia after a very anxious pregnancy, my third daughter was born almost 3 years after losing Sofia.

Kylie Bowditch, Group Secretary

At my 22 week scan, I was told my baby, a girl, had a congenital diaphragmatic hernia. I was referred to Kings College hospital and met with their specialists. I was told her chances of survival at birth were none, however, if I wanted to go ahead with a pioneering keyhole procedure, the chances would increase to 50/50. At 24 weeks I had the procedure, but was warned one of the risks was premature labour. My waters broke at 28+5 and Erin was born at 29+5 in Aug 2008. She spent 34 days in Intensive Care at Kings and on her last day, we made the most difficult decision of our lives to turn off her ventilator. She was suffering and in a lot of pain. I've since gone on to have two boys, the first born 14 months after Erin died and the next was born 19 months later.

Sam Baker, Treasurer

We lost our second daughter Scarlett in Dec 2009.  I'd had a normal healthy pregnancy and went into labour at 39 weeks.  We went excitedly to the hospital but after being examined they couldn't find a heartbeat and we were told our baby had died.  Thankfully labour continued and I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl later that evening.  She had what is referred to as a "true knot" in her umbilical cord.  The knot had probably been there fairly early on in pregnancy but had only pulled tight and suffocated her as I went into labour.  The hardest thing was telling our four and a half year old daughter.  We went on to have a son 15 months later, born safely via caesarean section with two true knots in his cord!

Sam Rumens

In Oct 2011 our twin sons were born at 24 weeks gestation.  We had known for two weeks that Jacob had little chance of survival as my waters had ruptured.  He arrived suddenly and fought bravely for 40 mins before we lost him.  His brother George still had his water and was much bigger so we hoped for his safe arrival.  However, four days later due to an infection I was induced.  George sadly never made it through a complicated delivery and was stillborn. I have gone on to have two little girls the first just under a year later and another was born 17 months after her sister. 

 

East Kent Sands Committee

Emma Oram

My beautiful baby boy was stillborn at full term in 2004. I was 19 and he was my first child. I had had a healthy pregnancy - never missing a midwife appointment, but felt reduced movements one morning. I went straight to the hospital where midwives tried to find his heartbeat but after a few minutes I was taken to a scan room and it was confirmed he had died. The post-mortum could reveal no reason as to why he didn't survive. I have since gone on to have two lovely daughters, one born 11 months after Liam died and the other born 7 years after, and they both know all about their big brother.